Family Counselling Brisbane
Having a family is for many parents is something that they dreamed of and planned for.
The reality is that raising a family is hard work and there are many confusing messages of what is the best way to parent or what should a perfect family look like. Parents struggle with finding the balance that works but is also "Socially Acceptable" I mean - Who we believe , Is it the Super Nanny with her naughty spot? Is it our own parents who would occasionally give us a smack and send us to our rooms without dinner Or is it the new age of being "mindful" and be a 'Free Range Parent" And let's throw in some helicoptering and the good old parent shaming that people are so quick to do on social media. No wonder parents are confused when it comes to setting boundaries and rules within their own homes |
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We also subconsciously fall into the trap of trying to give our children MORE than what we had as children.
What we forget though is the current day family life is different from our own childhoods Often both parents are working full time jobs. Children have even more extra activities to participate in such as sport, music and tutoring Family counselling is for all family situations and we know that all families have different values and priorities. A family can be made up of a single parent to an extended family all living under one roof or even dual families evenly sharing the parenting. When a family falls apart then there is the added stress of 2 parents trying to share the parenting and still cope with the emotions of the relationship fallout. All to quickly a families dynamic can be in crisis |
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Family counselling can help by giving all family members safe place where the family can start to work through their issues in a neutral but supportive environment.
Family counselling sessions can start when one or both parents bring in the family members being immediately impacted.
The first 1 or 2 sessions are a chance to hear all sides of the situation and then solutions can start to be suggested with the tools so that the family members can start to work together to get to the agreed goals
Usually it the art of negotiating that we have to learn.
How to negotiate and come to an agreed outcomes that the parents can manage and that the children can accept and carry out their side of the agreement. And how to continue to communicate as new situations arise in the day to day family activities.
Often there are personality clashes between parents and children and this can add an extra layer of complexity when there are moments of anger and leaning how to bring it back to a calmer discussion and to allow a negotiation so that both parties are being listened to and both are their needs and concerns are being met.
Other times parenting counselling is needed when the parents have differing parenting styles and they cannot come to an agreement of how to parent their own children. Children will quickly realise that they can play one parent off against the other so that they get their own way which causes more fractures and tensions within the families dynamics
it sets up a "Me against Them" situation and it will eventually implode either with a parent walking away from the situation or the situation becoming volatile
Family counselling sessions can start when one or both parents bring in the family members being immediately impacted.
The first 1 or 2 sessions are a chance to hear all sides of the situation and then solutions can start to be suggested with the tools so that the family members can start to work together to get to the agreed goals
Usually it the art of negotiating that we have to learn.
How to negotiate and come to an agreed outcomes that the parents can manage and that the children can accept and carry out their side of the agreement. And how to continue to communicate as new situations arise in the day to day family activities.
Often there are personality clashes between parents and children and this can add an extra layer of complexity when there are moments of anger and leaning how to bring it back to a calmer discussion and to allow a negotiation so that both parties are being listened to and both are their needs and concerns are being met.
Other times parenting counselling is needed when the parents have differing parenting styles and they cannot come to an agreement of how to parent their own children. Children will quickly realise that they can play one parent off against the other so that they get their own way which causes more fractures and tensions within the families dynamics
it sets up a "Me against Them" situation and it will eventually implode either with a parent walking away from the situation or the situation becoming volatile
